“When I was 10 years old, we were very poor…I would take the old American papers from the garbage and read them. One day I came across an article about the boxer Joe Lewis and a medical doctor. The doctor was talking down to Joe about his vocation. Lewis’ rebuttal was: ‘Doctor, you are a very educated man. Do you think you are?’ The doctor said yes. ‘Do you think you are better than 25% of your colleagues?’ The doctor responded yes. ‘Do you think you are 10% above your colleagues?’ The doctor paused and could not respond yes. Lewis then proceeded to say, ‘Doctor, I am a boxer, and I am number one in the world.’
“Son, all your life, you have set many goals for yourself. You have always achieved them. You wanted to be the most beautiful woman in America and I supported you. As I child, my father died, and I do not know how my mother supported all nine of us. I never even thought to ask her for anything because I knew she couldn’t provide; not even a school book. I promised myself that when I grew up, my children would never have to be without. Now that I have, I want to give so I can see what my children are going to do before I die. You are number one again and I am so proud.”
As I recap this conversation with my father from earlier this week, I am continually grateful for his unconditional support. Not only has he afforded the tools necessary for success, but he has instilled in me motivation, passion, and discipline. Because of his American dream, I realized mine and, should the time come, I will follow his influence and watch my children thrive.
Before my journey with MGA, I have been committed to supporting a number of causes. Early in my reign, I reached out to the contestants and promoters wanting to learn about charities in their hometowns. Thankfully, many responded and I was exposed and enlightened all year. During my travels, I have been inspired by so many experiences. This got me thinking: we as a community have an opportunity to not only share the unique legacy that is Miss Gay America, but pave future success by calling on the diverse resources that we as a family already have at our fingertips.
Working with Michael and Rob has covered a multitude of aspects in professionalism and friendship. I couldn’t be more thrilled that we share mutual desires for success of every individual-- not just in the MGA system, but in pageantry and drag entertainment as a whole. I am honored to have been the chosen messenger for everyone this year, encouraging and celebrating individuality. It is with this sentiment that I am honored to present a new addition to the evolution of this era:
The MGA Excellence Foundation.
The vision of the MGA Excellence Foundation is a world in which all LGBTQ youth and their allies thrive in all aspects of their lives.
Our mission is to raise awareness of and support for LGBTQ youth and their allies to promote their social development, community involvement, and professional futures.
We as an organization will achieve this by engaging the resources of our family of entertainers, community partners, and sponsors. The Miss Gay America System will participate in creative year-round community outreach and fundraising.
The MGAEF has already set goals for the next season, which encompasses community outreach. This will involve a tour of MGA Revue shows, featuring a cast of forever MGAs, the MGA 2018 Royal Court, and/or local celebrities. At these events, the MGAEF will invite local charities to attend and share their mission with attendees to broaden attendance and community awareness. Guest participation will be further encouraged by hosting fundraisers like toy/clothes/food drives.
Additionally, we hope to increase visibility for everyone involved. Throughout the year, there will be opportunities to promote the MGA system and local organizations and events, and these will be strengthened by working closely with our publicist. There are many potential opportunities for cross promotion in diverse media outlets. Things as simple as inviting the organization to a pageant, or something more complex like visiting a nursing home or cooking with children in need, to marching in a parade for a partner organization, are all ways to be visible and promote the MGA Excellence Foundation.
My goals have always been consistent-- to simply surround myself with opportunity for greatness. I see endless promise in the future of Miss Gay America and I am excited to spearhead these efforts. With you all, we can make a huge impact for so many and hopefully, as I have through my incredible year, we can continue to grow and find inspiration too.
Thank you all for your support and dedication.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
"Recently, I was driving my daughter to school and she said to me, out of the blue, 'Mama?' I said, 'Yes, baby?' She said, 'I'm the ugliest girl I know.' And I said, 'Huh?' And she was like, 'Yeah, I look like a boy with long hair.' And my brain went to, 'Oh my god, you're six. Why? Where is this coming from? Who said this? Can I kick a 6-year-old's ass, like what?'
But I didn't say anything. Instead I went home and I made a Powerpoint presentation for her. And in that presentation were androgynous rockstars and artists that live their truth, are probably made fun of every day of their life, and carry on, wave their flag and inspire the rest of us. And these are artists like Michael Jackson and David Bowie and Freddie Mercury and Annie Lennox and Prince and Janis Joplin and George Michael, Elton John, so many artists — her eyes glazed over. But then I said, 'You know, I really want to know why you feel this way about yourself.' And she said, 'Well I look like a boy,' and I said, 'Well what do you think I look like?' And she said, 'Well you're beautiful.' And I was like, 'Well, thanks. But when people make fun of me, that's what they use. They say I look like a boy or I'm too masculine or I have too many opinions, my body is too strong.'
And I said to her, 'Do you see me growing my hair?' She said, 'No, mama.' I said, 'Do you see me changing my body?' 'No, mama.' 'Do you see me changing the way I present myself to the world?' 'No, mama.' 'Do you see me selling out arenas all over the world?' 'Yes, Mama.' 'OK! So, baby girl. We don't change. We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl. And we help other people to change so they can see more kinds of beauty.'
And to all the artists here, I'm so inspired by all of you. Thank you for being your true selves and for lighting the way for us. I'm so inspired by you guys. There's so much rad shit happening in music. And keep doing it. Keep shining for the rest of us to see.” -Pink
In a year that has been committed to unity and inclusiveness, I am so glad that my friend Aurora Sexton agreed to write this entry. With public visibility, I feel that it is important to use our voice for the greater good. Thanks for being such an active leader Aurora and congrats on your much deserving successes.
It was a bustling night at work like any other Wednesday when I glanced down at my station to ﬁnd I had received a text from Miss Gay America Suzy Wong. “I know it’s last minute but would you like to write a piece for this month’s MGA newsletter? Write about whatever you want! Oh, and its due tomorrow!” After my initial “ Thanks for the heads up gal!” my mind raced and landed on the only obvious topic- Houston. When I was Miss Gay USofA I had the opportunity to travel down to Houston on several occasions as the city plays home to the largest USofA preliminary, Miss Gay Texas USofA. I’ve performed at night clubs like Riches, FBar and Hamburger Marys, dined in many of its legendary eateries and experienced ﬁrst hand the vibrant and diverse culture that makes the city such a beautiful place to visit, work and live. The friendships I’ve made and experiences I've had made it that much more horriﬁc to watch the TV as people’s homes were lost and lives were destroyed. The destruction caused by Harvey is beyond compare already climbing into the billions. Many people and animals have been left homeless. It’s hard watching from home and wishing you could do something. If you can’t personally go down to Houston to volunteer, there are many ways you can help! The following is a list of charities and resources that are taking donations that will directly aid ﬂood victims through this crisis.
On a personal note I want to say that we live in extremely polarizing times where many of us feel we are on one side or another. Politics has never been more ugly, tribal or divisive. For awhile now this country has been turning into a scary place that I didn’t recognize. But watching the people of Houston come together made me remember what living in this country is supposed to be about. It didn’t matter if they were black or white, gay or straight, liberal or conservative. When they made a human chain to save a man from his submerged truck they didn’t ask for his papers. When strangers took their boats out to help stranded survivors they didn’t ask who they voted for. They were out there helping their fellow man because it was the right thing, what we we have always done and will continue to do. That selﬂess connection to one another is the true character of America- No matter where we come from or what we believe, we are all in this together. We all bleed, suffer, overcome and prosper TOGETHER. When it really counts, we have each other’s backs as Americans. Proving that all has not been lost just yet.
“Without change there is no innovation, creativity, or incentive for improvement. Those who initiate change will have a better opportunity to manage the change that is inevitable.” – William Pollard
This October I will have the privilege to see my 13th Miss Gay America crowned. This year is a bit different because I will also see one of my contestants give up the title of Miss Gay America. This will be the 3rd time I have seen one of my contestants stepdown as Miss Gay America. This year is a little different, the mood, the atmosphere and the stage feels different… a good different. Over the past year, Mad Angel Entertainment along with Suzy have made some fresh, exciting and much needed changes to the Miss Gay America brand. I have not only witnessed the excitement in my home state of Arizona, I have been able to witness it nationwide. The contestants have welcomed and embraced these changes and it will all be witnessed at one of the best pageants of the year- Miss Gay America 2018!
Contestants, I want to chat to you for a bit. I cannot tell you enough how much your energy and passion have fueled me as a promoter this year. That energy and passion has made me think differently, has made me work harder and has ignited the same fire that was ignited in 2004 when I saw Raquel Chevallier crowned in Little Rock.
Be Yourself- only you can portray what you want on stage.
Be Confident- Stand tall, stand proud and give it all you got!
Be Creative- Push that envelope, open those doors, take those risks
Be Friendly- Veterans say hi to a newbie- Newbies say hi to a veteran. We are all one family!
Be Excellent- All Day, Every day!
Thank you to all the promoters who I have had the pleasure of seeing and meeting this year. You make me want to work harder and push myself to think outside my box. Never forget the goal of making dreams come true!
Suzy! Hey Artichoke! To say I am proud of you is an understatement. You had a goal from day one and you saw it come to life the entire year. Thank you for letting me on this amazing journey with you. You should be very proud of the legacy you have left and the foundation that was built. When you look back on your year, smile, ok, have a few tears as well.
We have a few weeks until we all embark on our journey of excellence and arrive in New Orleans. In that time let's reflect on our own personal journeys and stop and look at all the blessings around us. We have the unique ability to change the world, now go out there and #SLAY!
XOXO- Daniel Eckstrom
Promoter, Miss Gay Arizona America & Miss Gay Western States America
Starting the year, I took great care in planning my days as MGA: anticipating a ton of travel, airport time, long days, and an intense crash course into the world of fast food. Knowing that July and August were going to be intense, I worked diligently with my style gurus on hair and costumes and made every effort to keep detailed communication with the contestants, owners, and promoters as to leave zero opportunities for mishap. Now that the season has great momentum and is being received with great response, I sit in another airport restaurant reflecting on this amazing opportunity.
Something that Michael and Rob and the national office have requested of the contestants is that we focus on celebrating individuality. More now than ever, I am seeing a lifted cloud of conformity allowing us all to, quite simply, be ourselves. With the new judging and category structure, we are rewarded for creativity. We are encouraged to share our story, or, as I like to refer to it, “nuggets.” And most importantly, we are being rewarded for our passion and efforts. Having passed the half way mark with MGA 2018 preliminaries, I am beyond pleased that the contestants have taken this direction and have really excelled.
I say in contestant orientation, “Tell your story. When you are yourself, there is no wrong” -- and they are listening and delivering. Male interviews have been an emotional roller coaster; sincere, inspiring, and heartfelt. So much that I sit behind the contestants as to not distract them with my constant tears of pride. Evening gowns are exciting! The care and consideration for this category is across-the-board so cool, and the choices that are being made are progressive, trendy, and fresh. Talents have blown me away. No cookie-cutter talents; everyone has stepped it up. It’s insane how much creativity we have in our community and I’m glad to see it in the MGA system.
As we continue to crown state and regional delegates for the big show in October, I want to commend the veterans of the MGA organization for such a wonderful reception. Working with the promoters and judges has really opened my eyes to the beauty of growth and diplomacy. Yes, we are in a new era and exciting times are among us. However, I know that sometimes it’s hard to change or adjust. Everyone has been so welcoming and encouraging of the changes and of me, which relieves tons of stress. I am thankful for the support and am in complete awe that every city I go to, I leave with more family close to my heart. With this, I am continuously grateful for this life changing opportunity to be the voice of MGA Pageantry.
It’s not over yet. I have a few months left in my reign and look forward to the next chapters of this incredible journey. I am so proud of how the year has gone and applaud you all for its results. You are inspiring and I am honored to have witnessed so many great future MGA moments.
Miss Gay America 2017
Whenever I speak with Coti Collins, I am always asked “Have you seen the one yet?” My response is “Yes, I have actually seen many.” This is so promising for the future of Miss Gay America. With this thought, I feel a big part of my winning last year is due to the support I received from many Forever MGAs. They provided me with many tools and I would like to pay this sentiment forward. So, in addition to my regular entry, I want share a few assessments from my experiences to the next MGA; just a few things to ponder as you go into your reign.
You say you are ready, but what does “ready” really mean?
-Do you understand the rule book and administrative duties? Like do you REALLY?
-Practice mock pageants with the score sheets so that you are familiar with the tabulation process.
-Troubleshoot potential scenarios that may arise: How would you resolve a tie? How would you apply administrative deductions? How would you conduct orientation? Could you give the category descriptions, including sub-category point details?
-Why are you reaching out?
-Who is on your outreach list?
-What are you going to reach out about?
-When will you do this?
-How will you do this?
Having a winning package on final night is one thing. Having the necessities to honor each opening production at the prelims and to look the part as MGA is serious business. Start getting your looks and numbers together for the entire year. Once you start your preliminaries, it gets taxing. Packing is a huge deal. Luggage is expensive and heavy. Be prepared to pay for shipping and extra bags. Though some costs are supported by the promoters, it barely covers costs. You will need numerous gowns, versatile performance pieces, looks for promos, cocktail dresses, hair, and jewelry…all of which are important for the brand image of MGA, so plan ahead and plan smart (and start hoarding panty hose and bobby pins).
Scheduling Prelims and Communication
Though there is no pressure to sell preliminaries to Michael and Rob, there is quite a sense of accomplishment when you do. I suggest Friday and Sunday pageants, something I did not think about until recently. This could potentially double the current number of preliminaries we currently have, giving two a weekend with a travel day in the middle. Stay organized. Keep a file of each prelim with as much concise detail as possible. Expect a lot of communication with the promoters. I do what I call “rounds”. Every day I reach out to at least 5 people, be it contestants or promoters just to check in. Every time I do, I do not get an “everything is fine” response. There is always something to discuss, brainstorm, or troubleshoot.
Travel/ Time Management
Get your rest when you can. It is exciting to be in a new city almost on a daily basis, but remember to take time to yourself and stay focused on your job, Promoters are enthusiastic to spoil you and that is wonderful; however, please realize your limits, should you need to rest or step away for a moment.
During your reign, do not expect to always be taken care of. Be prepared to tackle expenses like taxi, luggage, hotel incidentals, and meals. Often times, you will get reimbursed, but these things are not required by your pageant hosts, and should it be covered, it’s due to the promoters’ generosity.
The MGA sisterhood is very tight and you will be supported by many. Hopefully my point of view will get your gears going and adds to your steps to success.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
“It doesn’t matter how slow you go as long as you don’t stop”
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to just try one more time.”
- Thomas A. Edison
Having featured MGA 2017 top ten sisters I am have a couple months left and would like to give a special shout out to a contestant that really moved me. It is with great respect and honor that I introduce Ruby Diamond. Ruby competed at Miss Gay Missouri and touched my heart.
For years entertainers have used their talents to achieve various goals. Some strive to win pageants, while others work towards fame, success, or just simply being “fishy”. I have used my talents as a platform to give back to my community. When I started performing and the crowds would cheer and throw money, something clicked inside of me. What a great way to raise money for charity! Thus, my journey began. Throughout this journey I have discovered that when wearing a crown, people really pay attention to what you’re doing. So I’ve used my pageantry competition and all titles I have won as a platform to help as many charities as possible. Of course, I have enjoyed the competition aspect of pageantry and the friendships that have blossomed from competing.
As Miss Gay Springfield Missouri America I often hear “oh for you, anything” and “whatever you need, just ask!”
I have worked for numerous local charities including the Aids Project of the Ozarks, CARE Clinic, Boxer/Schnauzer Rescue of the Ozarks, Wonder Weims, and many others over the years. One of my favorite charities is The Rare Breed, a Springfield, MO based Youth Homeless Outreach Center. The Rare Breed serves teens ages 14 -20 who have been displaced from their homes. A large percentage of these homeless youth identify as LGBT and were displaced by unaccepting parents or family. The center provides numerous services for these youth including meals, showers, personal care items, GED classes, interview skills, clothing, and much much more. Working for this organization has touched my heart in a way nothing else has been able to. Getting to see the kids light up with joy when you bring in a car load of donations is better than Christmas.
There are many charities providing similar services in all areas of the country. I challenge each of you reading to seek out a local charity and volunteer your time. It will change your life as much as your contributions will change someone else’s.
I am well known for closing out my shows telling the audience “Never let anyone dull your sparkle!” How will you keep your sparkle alive?
Ruby Diamond, Miss Gay Springfield Missouri America.
Five Things I Learned Promoting Miss Gay Ohio America 2017
Happy pageant season everyone! All around the country, I am seeing amazing things happen, leading up to what is going to be an UNBELIEVABLE Miss Gay America! After this year's phenomenal Miss Gay Ohio America weekend, I thought I would share a few things I learned.
Here are my Promoter's TOP FIVE:
1) Trust the process:
Promoting for MGA is a journey. From initial emails to crowning, there are a million things to do. I have discovered organization is the name of the game. We are best served when we prepare and let the magic that is MGA do its thing!
2) Have Faith In Your Team:
Being a promoter is about helping others achieve their dreams. We are there to inspire, coach, provide honest feedback and an open mind. We are nothing without our team. Every last one of them plays a part in our success and the success of our contestants. Let them do what they do best. Help them to help you shine!
3) Utilize Your Resources:
We all have people who go out of their way to make our pageant successful. Through sponsorship, donation, volunteering and advertising we find there are a plethora of people interested in being a part of our success.
Do not forget your Miss Gay America, Suzy Wong! She is probably the most valuable resource we have!!! The wealth of knowledge, support, focus and determination our Symbol of Excellence provided us is something I will call on for years to come!
4) Cherish The Special Moments:
With all that needs to be done, all the questions to be answered and the fires to be extinguished, don't forget to RELAX!!
Let the experience be organic. Let it evolve. Remember to breathe. It's a wonderful weekend for our contestants, formers, reigning and guests. Whether it's someone's first experience with America, or their fiftieth, everyone deserves to have a special evening,and so do you!!!!!
5) Be Grateful:
Thank everyone. Respond to everyone. Build relationships that will continue over the years. Make everyone feel special and they will become part of your family. This is the biggest lesson I learned. When I took a moment and thought about everyone who gave so much to see us succeed, it was overwhelming!
Humility is a powerful thing.... A thank you and a hug go a long way!
Oh.... And as a bonus...
Take pictures! Tell stories! Build your legacy and leave your mark on this system...
I have been involved with MGA since the late 90's, I competed in 2008, and last year I came in board with Nick Rose as co-owner and co-promoter. It was the best decision I have ever made!!! I couldn't and wouldn't do it without his vision, love and support.
As a promoter, I was fortunate to have Mary Nolan as my first Miss Gay Ohio America. I could not have asked for a better representative my first year!
We inspired each other, taught each other, and shared memories I will cherish forever!
Have a wonderful prelim! I look forward to seeing you all in New Orleans this October!!
Miss Gay Ohio America
Returning to Miss Gay America 2017, I not only set sites on winning the national crown, but hoped my year would be full of fond moments. I remember the day I reached out to Daniel and Nick expressing my interest in their preliminary. From the start, I received nothing but enthusiastic support.
Daniel said to me, “I will be as much or as little a part of your journey as you want me to be.” Seeing that we only knew of each other in passing, I found this gesture to be so generous and promising. Taking that to heart, I felt an instant calm in my decision, and from that point until now, I do not think a day has gone by that we have not been in communication. I honestly feel that the support and guidance I received instilled the confidence and focus I needed to achieve my goal of becoming MGA.
As I reflect on this whirlwind of a year, I cannot help but think of all of my sisters, promoters, friends, and fans for welcoming me so graciously into the MGA family. In addition, I commend everyone’s dedication to helping others live out their dreams.
Though I find it bittersweet that the chapters of my life as Miss Gay America have passed its half way mark, for me, the ultimate prize is that of strong bonds and sense of family. The motivation, sincerity and passion I have seen by so many promoters, contestants and volunteers is something I hope I can pay forward to others many times over.
And as I hit the road extensively over the next few months, I feel a calm and in control knowing that I am supported across the nation.
A former MGA told me to enjoy MY year, but as I stated early on, I am honored to make this OUR year; one of inclusiveness, unity and mutual growth. Winning for me will remain an awesome image in my mind, but it is the experiences this title has given me with all of you that I will forever cherish.
To all that have qualified for MGA2018 already, congrats. And to those planning and preparing for their prelims, good luck. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to represent you.
Miss Gay America 2017
Two Girls, a Guy, and a Pageant
A small business owner, medical study coordinator and a project manager all walk into a gay bar and buy a pageant. That’s what many think brought Tom Marston, Tina Kramer-Merriken, and Jessica Merriken to buy Miss Maryland. Our fellow promoters know this is not true. Passion has driven Tom into regional, city and state pageant ownership since the 1990’s. Tina and I were born in the early 1980’s so our passion came 15 years later. The three of us possess very different personalities. The responsibilities involved in putting on a pageant are distributed based on individual skillsets and personalities.
This was our second year running Miss Gay Maryland America. The pageant was previously owned by Charles (Chuck) Bowers, former proprietor of The Hippo, an LGBTQ+ nightclub located in Baltimore, MD. The Hippo opened in 1972 and its last call was on October 3, 2015. Miss Gay Maryland was held at the Hippo for over 30 years. Through Chuck’s retirement, Miss Gay Maryland became available for purchase and we bought it with the support of Chuck and the Miss Maryland family.
From the start, it was apparent that we would keep the formers. They are a necessary and integral part of the Miss Gay Maryland system.
Our next step was to find a new venue. We took to the Internet to research throughout Maryland. We knew we wanted a large venue, ideally a theater. After months of searching, phone calls, and site visits, we found a new venue at the Horseshoe Casino in Baltimore, complete with four adjoining ballrooms.
With the venue secured, we created our project plan. The plan helps determine how different functions will be executed per the franchise contract and obligations to title holders. This includes, but is not limited to, websites, social media, advertising/press, and helping city promoters.
Promoters have a variety of concerns on the day of the pageant. We wonder if there will be a good crowd to energize the contestants and offset the venue rental costs, if all the formers will attend, and if everything will run according to schedule. We also wonder what it will be like to work with the new titleholder. At the national pageant, promoters aid their contestants with everything from spray painting props in the parking lot to telling them they are beautiful.
Pageant owners put in a lot of hours and energy, often without much recognition; however, all of the effort is worth it to see our contestant on the big stage at Miss Gay America.
We strive to have a stronger and bigger Miss Gay Maryland each year. Much of this is due to the formers within the Maryland system. The formers keep the system alive, recruit, support, and provide love.
Wong of Wisdom
"I'd rather have huge success and huge failures than travel in the middle of the road."
- Kevin Aucoin
In addition to my monthly column, I'd like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity to share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA. This month I welcome, from Monroe, Louisiana Dextaci!
My given name is Dex Poindexter. And I want to give you my story. I am 28 years old and I come from West Monroe, LA. Professionally I work as an administrative support specialist for the United Stares Department of Education where I specialize in document processing and underwriting. I have been a competitive vocalist since I was a young child and have performed in venues ranging from the Jackie Gleason theater in Miami, Florida to the beautiful Carnige hall in New York City. I have been a contestant on American Idol season 8 as Dex and Americas Got Talent season 9 as Dextaci. I have been performing in the art of female
Impersonation for 8 years and what a journey it has been. I also have been competing in the Miss Gay America system for 8 years as well.
In 2009 I found out what MGA was through a cast member at one of my out of town shows. She said that Miss Gay America is a spectacular contest and that I should look into it. In the summer of 2010 I won a city prelim and went on to Miss Gay Louisiana America 2010 and was 3rd alt. I was invited to go to MGA 2011 with Delanie Valentine as a team member of hers that year and it changed my life. I went back to MGLA 2011 and was 2nd alt. I was once again invited to go to MGA 2012 with Athena Campbell to be in her team. And once again my fire burned hotter and brighter to one day getting to be on the MGA stage. And finally I went back to MLGA my third year and was crowned Miss Gay Louisiana America 2012 on my way to MGA 2013 where Sally Sparkles won. When that week was over I promised myself to live my dream as Miss Gay Louisiana but Miss Gay America had to be in my future.
My eight year journey has taught me lots of things. As a contestant we are not only investing our time and money into this art form but it is also a huge emotional investment. I am the first to say if it is in your heart, mind, body and soul to be Miss Gay America then go for it.
Pageantry is very rewarding with being able to meet so many people from all over the country as well setting goals for yourself. But you also need to weigh EVERY aspect of competition.
I want to share some helpful tips that have helped me along my journey.
Tip # 1 "Budget properly"
Sometimes we brainstorm these magnificent ideas such as gowns and talents but once we get the ball rolling we sometimes go oh wait ! I'm
Not going to be able to afford this or that so I will have to eat Vienna sausages for
A month before and after to afford everything and you never want to be in that situation. What I like to do is get a calendar out and book shows/ gigs in advance so I can get myself a ballpark or base amount to work with. That way I am not upset down the road and I get to execute what I want and how I want.
Tip #2 "Choosing a prelim"
This is a very important decision. Will the prize package help aid you in your journey to help offset that costly gown or talent? Will the venue be able to accommodate my talent with dancers and props if any? How far is hotel from venue? Is this the best time of year for me to compete? Can I afford to travel that far comfortably? Will this promoter help me reach my maximum potential? Last but certainly not least DO NOT RELY ON A PRIZE
PACKAGE AT WHAT SO EVER!! It is clear as crystal in the MGA handbook that plan "B" always needs to be in your back pocket. I have had promoter drop the ball and it is not a good feeling.
Tip # 3 "MGA study"
Some folks call me the drag historian of Miss Gay America. But I have learned all of my knowledge from always keeping my eyes and ears open as a hungry queen(no pun intended) in dressing rooms, pageants and anywhere drag was mentioned. Getting your hands on MGA videos/ pictures and seeing how previous contestants found success. Learning the pageant history and what all the formers have contributed to the success of pageant system. The Forever MGAs are the most valuable resource to you. They are always willing to give advice and feedback. And do not jump into the system without reading the handbook. I can't tell you how many times small things are over looked like presentation requirements or CD labeling to cost administrative point deductions.
Tip # 4 "If its not broke don't fix it and less is more"
Many times in pageantry contestants sometimes find a consistency in the choices they have made. This could be talents, male interview look, gowns and the list goes on. If you see a trend in your self scoring well and winning doing something don't change it. For example, MGA 2005 Raquel Chevalier wore her champagne gown many years in a row, why? Because she scored so well that it wasn't worth the risk of a new investment where she could lose points. Even if you have done it 36193 times and it's scoring you high points, then why change it? But also remember to always keep it fresh because judges and the audience change every single time. If you think you can do talent alone do it. Make sure you evaluate every aspect in it and go over the talent sub categories. Don't put anything on stage that doesn't make your talent better. So watch those props and dancers like a hawk
My sisters from the top 10 have all shared something that they thought was important with you. I could go on and on but wanted to cut this short.
If you are out there reading this and think that MGA is not within your reach, think again. If you think that just because you are the "different" girl you don't stand a chance? Do not think that. There is a special place for you in the America system. We are family. We are one. I am so honored and blessed to be part of this system. Miss Gay America is a life changing experience.
I will leave you with this.....
"Always think of your dreams, goals
and ambitions as a question of WHEN and not If"
Miss Gay Mid-America 2016
4th alt to MGA 2017
Though a hobby for many of us, drag pageantry is a serious business, and in all of our efforts for success, we spend time, energy, and money like crazy. Many consume their minds with a “what are they looking for, what do they want?” mentality. And oftentimes, it is noticed that when a formula works for someone, the following years tend to channel repeats in imagery and style in hopes to recreate magic. That being said, I personally do not feel that there is a definitive way to capture the title of Miss Gay America. But one thing that I have come to realize, is that in holding the title of Miss Gay America, one must be fully self-aware.
Since my start, I had a promising, steady three year climb to the title of MGA. Though many factors in my life attributed to me taking a year break, a big reason for my hiatus was simply, I needed to soul search. The love I had fallen into with the America pageantry system was unquestionable, for I knew I found a new home; however, I found myself a bit scattered and lost.
Initially, my relationship with MGA was one of innocence. Unjaded and unaffected, I drew inspiration from my drag sisters of many genres and from my performance past. My heart was full every time I stepped on the national stage. I was carefree and proud, living in the moment. But shortly after that honeymoon stage, I realized that I could actually win this thing. With this came a more serious time, the innocence I had prior was lost. My focus shifted, my strategies shifted, my head space shifted. I went into warrior mode with one goal, to be MGA. I wanted the right team, I wanted the right gown, I wanted everything of what I knew a winning package to be. But when the judgement day came after I gathered what I thought was necessary, I still fell short.
"Back to the drawing board", I thought to myself. "Maybe I’m not what they want. Maybe the friends buzzing in my ear, saying I should give up, is valid.” But as I started to think deeper, I realized that though I could attain the looks and the staging, I was also a unique individual with an interesting point of view and that my individuality would be my ticket to success. Responsible for my own success, instead of worrying about what others wanted or how I was perceived, I worked on sharing my story. To the judges, I figured that if I am 100% authentic, there is no right or wrong. All I had to do was share who I am, and let them know that I am as much as an asset to them as they are to me, and that I am worthy of joining the MGA family.
So for the contestants this season, please pay attention to who you are. I encourage you to share your story. When you walk into Male Interview, you need to have a strong self awareness, and know why you are there and what you want from all of this. Share your life’s accomplishments; express what brings you pride. You are in control of how you are received by the judges, so prepare properly. When one is being themselves, there is no right or wrong. And as you prepare your package, please remember: trust yourself, know yourself, do what feels right because you said so, and celebrate what makes you unique.
With this, you will have already won.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
“Everything you do, is at the service of “the brand”. It’s all about the power of the image…communication, visual merchandising, the packaging; the logo. So what would your brand bring? Why would it be different than anyone? You have to be close to who you are, what you want, how you want it….because all through your career, the closer you put your product to the consumer and the more authentic you are, the longer you will last.”
-Diane von Furstenberg
Every month I am honored to feature one of my 2017 Top 10 sisters. Reading and knowing her story only makes me appreciate her more. Ladies and gentlemen, I give to you the reigning Miss Gay Texas America and 2nd Alternate to Miss Gay America, Sofia Anderson
I'm very excited and honored to have this moment and time to be part of Sincerely Suzy's....MGA Newsletter. I am Sofia Anderson, Miss Gay Texas America 2016. As many of you know, I was born and raised in Mexico. As a young boy I was drawn to the stage. At the young age of 18 Sofia came to be. After 12 years of female impersonation I moved to the united states. Ones I relocated to the Unites States, I feel that Sofia was reborn. Learning how to revamp what I thought I had perfected. Even now after 6 yrs of living in the US I learn something new every day.
I have to give my most humble thank you to K&C Productions. Thank you for seeing in me the qualities that Miss Gay Texas America must posses. And for giving me the opportunity to be part of the wonderful family that the America system is. When I was crowned Miss Gay Texas America, I had no idea all the hard work and responsibilities that came with such a prestigious title. I am 100% certain that I have been able to accomplish all that I have thanks to all the love and help from my sisters, K&C Productions, Rob and Micheal, and our Symbol of Excellence, Miss Suzy Wong.
I feel that I am just starting off in this wonderful sisterhood of the America system. And I plan to be part of this sisterhood for a while. A sisterhood that loves you even with all your flaws. As we all know English is not my first language, and yes Rosetta Stone is helping, but thank you for loving me for me, even if it is in Spanish. Las amo a todas mis hermanas. I don’t see my language barrier as an obstacle, I see it as a challenge to better myself as a person.
So as I sit here writing this I can only say, having dreams is wonderful. Making them a reality is even better. Don't ever let go of those dreams. And remember crowns are not made of stones...they are made of dreams, hard work, dedication, sacrifices, tears and determination.
Sofia Anderson Miss Gay Texas America 2016
I think getting to see things from another point of view is a cool new layer as we continue to grow our family. I've reached out to our promoters and asked them to share thoughts that will hopefully give future contestants a stronger sense of the foundation that allows us to shine on stage. I am so overjoyed that so many promoters responded to my request. I am especially honored that this first entry is from Miss Gay America 1972, The "OG" Norma Kristie, aka Norman Jones!
If you should ever consider being a promoter, you should search for the definition of promoter. One of the main arteries in the veins of the description and duties of a promoter is financing of the event, organizing and funding the company that supports a cause or an aim. That is the key to being a success with whatever you might choose to promote, business or individually.
In pageants one must take control of every aspect of the operation during the event. As is usual, nothing is complete until the paper work is done and that also included the monitoring of almost everything your proposed representative is doing. Making sure they are following instructions. Nothing can be left to chance or interpretation of one person except the promoter, and sometimes they need a fact checker.
After that, full support of the contestants rooms, finances, transportation, physical and mental support is a must. Most promoters that I have heard and I have even said it to myself, "just relax and have fun." That is great to hear but the goal is to win.
May marks the half way point of my reign as Miss Gay America 2017. Much has happened since I was surrounded by tons of love in Memphis. Achieving the title of MGA was a moment of the stars aligning and because of this honor, I have been blessed to travel, promote and work along side so many of my idols, learning that though we all have individual strengths, we all have a purpose and an opportunity to be impactful.
I am humbled by the hospitality I have experienced thus far and am impressed beyond my expectations of the genuine love, passion and humanity I sense from so many contestants who have dedicated themselves to this organization.
As I have stated before, everyone's goal for excellence comes form different motivations. And for me, instead of this crown validating my personal doubts, I have discovered a deeper sense of security in people; one of family, camaraderie, and unconditional support. The outpouring of well wishes I have received in the last few months have been heart warming. People are taking notice of our efforts and I am so proud of the progress as we grow and bond stronger than before.
I was looking through old blog articles for inspiration and came across something I shared last May. Reading it again made me smile so…enjoy.
Joe and Jerry are friends of mine. I met Jerry Peek because of my involvement with the Miss Gay America Organization. He's the pioneer that founded one of the nations most prestigious pageants for the art of female impersonation over 40 years ago. He's a supporter of and great mentor for Suzy. He's a legend.
For a couple so ingrained and respected in the LGBT community, I am over joyed for Joe and this experience at his high school reunion. There has to be some sense of closure, liberation and heeling.
To me, this personal accomplishment is something we as a community should regard as progress. Equality is something that begins with personal regard.
Thanks for posting this Joe.
I came out to my high school classmates at my 50th class reunion this week end. Since I got my invitation last month I had been debating on doing so. There has been a class reunion every 10 yrs since graduation in 1966. I went to the first, but none of the rest. At that one, each stood up and told about their life since graduation. They told of their husbands and wives, their children and their children's accomplishments. At that time, I had been with Jerry for 5 yrs and his son (my son) was nine years old, but I wasn't able to speak of that. Not from shame, but fear.
So I stood silent. I am from a rural small town. There was only 33 in our graduating class. For two weeks I had been rehearsing in my mind my speech. I didn't tell Jerry what I was planning because I was afraid I might not go through with it and he would be disappointed. Friday night came and I still wasn't sure.
We had a " meet and hugs" before dinner. It was great. There was 18 classmates with some husbands and wives. We had all been close in school and I was feeling that same warm. After dinner we had a time for each person to say something about what had been going on in their life. After a couple had gotten up and spoken, it was my turn. I walked up to the podium. I told them that this was the first reunion since the 10 yr one. I told them that I had not felt comfortable there, not because of them but because of me. Then I told them that I was gay and had been in a relationship with a man since November of 1971. And that we would celebrate our 45th anniversary this year. That Jerry had a 4 yr old son that we had raised That we had 2 grand
children and 2 great-grand children. And that I was surrounded by a loving circle of family and friends. That I was content in my life and had no regrets.
I was glad to be there and wanted to share that with them. It was all I hoped it would be, There was applause and Frankie (our class president) ran up and hugged me.
Afterwards, so many came up and talked to me about my being gay, some saying that they had a gay relative. Others told me how proud they were of me and some hugged
me but didn't say anything. Everyone said the right thing and that made me feel good. I feel blessed and loved every day. Just wanted to share this with my family and
friends here on facebook.
In closing I want to leave you with a few thoughts that I have been writing in my travel journal.
-Growth is a process that you can not rush.
-Challenges in life are sometimes the walls you build yourself.
-Your truth will take you far.
Thank you all for an amazing reign thus far.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
"What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it is supposed to be."
-Franklin Delano Roosevelt.
Every month I am honored to feature one of my 2017 Top 10 sisters. I am so happy that she made the 10 in her first year at MGA. After watching the DVD and interacting with her, I can see why she is "very popular". I present to you the reigning Miss Gay Ohio America, Mary Nolan!
“Compete from the Heart”
First, thank you so much to Miss Gay America, Suzy Wong, for asking me to write a piece for her newsletter. I had the pleasure of watching Suzy crowned and have had several opportunities to interact with her during her reign and she has been nothing but wonderful to me. I am currently in full-swing of my own preliminaries for Miss Gay Ohio America and am still so much in love with my job. I am proud of my already qualified contestants and excited for the contestants who are competing in the next few months. I wrote this piece in response to some of my own self-doubts about competing and as a reflection of why I made the choice to compete again. Thank you to the Miss Gay America family for giving me a place to be vulnerable and honest, I hope you all enjoy.
In my constant quest for self-improvement, I read quite a bit. Reading, listening to lectures, listening to talks, and researching other ways to better myself are just some of the ways I have aligned my actions with my goals. In this quest, I read a very interesting chapter called, “Compete from the Heart,” by Richard Carlson. As many of my Miss Gay America sisters are planning and picking preliminaries in which to compete, this chapter struck me as quite relevant. The author talks about loving the process of competing and competing for the sake of competing. I find this to be perfect advice for anyone interested in competing and anyone who has competed before.
I began competing to better my craft and to grow. There are few times that we, as entertainers, get the opportunity to pour ourselves into our categories and show a group of qualified people what we can do. If we are lucky enough to place high enough, we get a live critique session with the judges. I find this to be the most important aspect of organized pageantry and especially the Miss Gay America system. When else in my career am I going to have the opportunity to have four former national titleholders having an open and honest conversation about my craft with the purpose of growth? That kind of thing just doesn’t happen. The growth in pageantry doesn’t just come from a judge’s critique however.
When we compete from the heart, we are competing for the sake of competing. We compete because we love competition, we compete because we want growth, and we compete because of the process. The process of competing starts with planning. We plan makeup looks, hair, costumes, gowns, talents, and even how we’ll set-up our interview. We plan budgets and benefits because pageantry ain’t cheap. In all of that planning, sometimes we lose focus of what the real goal is. I’m not saying I don’t want to win, who doesn’t? For me, winning is like the icing on the cake, the goal is growth. I do compete to win but not at the expense of my integrity or at the expense of my fellow contestants. That is not to say that growth stops after winning; I have learned more as Miss Gay Ohio America that ever before in my career. I have a love for details and preparing for pageantry is literally detail after detail after detail. It is nearly impossible to score highly without paying attention to nearly every detail. It is more about the process than the end result when we compete for the right reasons. Through the process of competing, we learn professionalism, time-management, leadership, responsibility, and accountability. It is this process that we find the real importance of competing.
Another benefit of competing from the heart is how we treat our fellow contestants. If we approach a contest with a highly-competitive, winner take all mentality, we lose focus that we are competing against real people. Our fellow competitors become enemies that must be beaten. It creates the “I’m better because I won,” thought and the reverse, “I’m not as good because I lost.” When we compete from the heart, we look at our competition as sisters who deserve our respect. We want them to be their best so that if we do win that night’s competition, we can respect our win (and so can everyone else). We lift up our competition so that after crowning we can all look each other in eyes and say, “I respect you and I respect myself.” No one actually loses when they compete from the heart. Even if we don’t win the crown, we gain the growth. We also learn from both our mistakes and our successes. We learn how to model, what to wear, how to style, and how much more rehearsal it takes for a successful talent. It is difficult to compete this way. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stop and say, “I’m here to grow,” and accept the outcome when we gave 110% into our packages. If we can, however, work towards this mentality, it changes EVERYTHING about our decision to compete.
I chose to compete from love and it has allowed me to accomplish my number one goal this year, to be better. When asked at my interview for Miss Gay Ohio America why I wanted to be Miss Gay Ohio America I responded like this: Miss Gay Ohio America opens so many doors and affords an incredible opportunity for growth. If you look at every Miss Gay Ohio America the day before they won and the day after they stepped down you will see a better entertainer. I want that growth for me. It has not always been easy and I have lost my way along the process, but I have found a way to refocus and have benefited so much. I urge you to reflect on why you compete and at least entertain the idea of competing from the heart.
We are off to an amazing season. The experiences so far with Heart of America and Northeast were absolutely a dream and a pleasure. I feel the passion and the excitement. The energy is electric and something I look forward to all year long. Thank you David and Cory, and Tom and Eric, for being so committed and meticulous. Congrats to not only Deva, Brooke Lynn, Desi, and Mary, but to all the contestants so far with whom I have been able to grow and bond. I am so proud of all of you. Keep up the good work.
My birth month April has always felt significant in my life. In the past few years, it has marked establishing new roots in California; being denied multiple times and finally cast on reality TV; a solo self-realizing train trip up the West coast; and numerous bonding vacations with my extended family. This year in particular, as I turn 40 and am fully immersed in the honor of Miss Gay America pageantry, I look around and am humbled by everything that surrounds me. I am grateful for the support of my parents, and for people who unconditionally believe that we all have the power for greatness in whatever avenue we choose to shine.
Growing up, I wasn’t much of a scholar, and of the very few books that I ever really read from beginning to end is a children's book, The Giving Tree, by Shel Silverstein. It has become one of my favorites.
“Once there was a tree....
and she loved a little boy.
And every day the boy would come
and he would gather her leaves
and make them into crowns
and play king of the forest.
He would climb up her trunk
and swing from her branches
and eat apples.
And they would play hide-and-go-seek.
And when he was tired,
he would sleep in her shade.
And the boy loved the tree....very much.
And the tree was happy.
But the boy stayed away for a long time.
And when he came back,
the tree was so happy
she could hardly speak.
"Come, Boy," she whispered, "come and play."
"I am too old and sad to play”, said the boy.
"I want a boat that will take me far away from here.
Can you give me a boat?"
"Cut down my trunk and make a boat," said the tree.
"Then you can sail away... and be happy."
And so the boy cut down her trunk
and made a boat and sailed away.
And the tree was happy
... but not really.
And after a long time
the boy came back again.
"I am sorry, Boy,"
said the tree," but I have nothing left to give you -
My apples are gone."
"My teeth are too weak for apples," said the boy.
"My branches are gone," said the tree.
" You cannot swing on them - "
"I am too old to swing on branches," said the boy.
"My trunk is gone," said the tree.
"You cannot climb - "
"I am too tired to climb" said the boy.
"I am sorry," sighed the tree.
"I wish that I could give you something.... but I have nothing left.
I am just an old stump. I am sorry...."
"I don't need very much now," said the boy.
"Just a quiet place to sit and rest. I am very tired."
"Well," said the tree, straightening herself up as much as she could,
"well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting.
Come, Boy, sit down. Sit down and rest."
And the boy did.
And the tree was happy.”
Greatness is measured in many ways. Identified as a form of mastery and distinction, some seek it by realizing personal goals, and others find gratification in reveling in the accomplishments of others. So as it pertains to MGA, I want to recognize what I see as “The Giving Trees” of the system, the un-sung heroes, the back bone and major component to us living out our Miss Gay America dreams…the promoters.
Something I looked forward to as Miss Gay America, was the opportunity to bond with the contestants and the chance to help guide and support “future MGAs” in their journey. Only recently, as I have been working with 2018 preliminary promoters have I quickly come to realize that this organization is greater than the 45 queens that have preceded me, and the multiple contestants who participate each year. I am amazed by the teams of support that are dedicated to our art form and whose passion and selfless commitment allow us to shine.
A couple of days ago, I woke up with something turning in my head. As much as these promoters support us, pay for us, and celebrate us, we know little-to-nothing as to why they do what they do. So I asked, “Why do you promote?” And the responses I received across the board was simply beautiful.
“I am from a very small town in upstate NY and like a lot of other people, it was hard growing up feeling different because of my feelings towards the same gender. I didn’t really have anyone to talk to about it. When I was 18 I heard that there were actually gay bars. I went to one and stood outside in the rain afraid to go inside."
“A drag queen came up to me and took me inside and stayed by my side all night long introducing me to all of her friends. Talked about the art form and making me feel comfortable. 27 years later, we are still the best of friends. So drag queens will always hold a special place in my heart. "
“As far as pageants, it is like the Oscars for drag queens. So it is my mission in life to support and provide a great venue and opportunity in the drag community."
“MGA is the pros of all systems, and if you want to be the best-- which I always do-- you surround yourself by the best people. And that is why I chose MGA."
"…It was that very drag queen who taught me that it is ok to express yourself and be who you are on the inside and bring it to the outside.”
I am learning that there are many layers in every experience and specifically within the family that is Miss Gay America Pageantry. All of the moving notes create one beautiful song. As I see so many pour their hearts into the success of others year after year, I want to say thank you for letting us swing from your branches. Your commitment to our greatness is what a true champion is.
“….and the tree was happy.”
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
"Thousand of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreased by being shared."
"Nothing in the world is impossible. The word itself says, I'm Possible!"
- Audrey Hepburn
Every month I am honored to feature one of my 2017 Top 10 sisters. All the way from her stint on America Airlines, I present to you the reigning Miss Gay Southern Elegance America, Trixie LaRue!
Greetings and welcome aboard ﬂight 2018 of America Airlines! My name is Trixie LaRue and I am honored to be apart of the very ﬁrst Top Ten class of this New Era of Evolution! Congrats to Rob and Michael on their ﬁrst successful pageant as new owners and to our reigning symbol of excellence - Suzy Wong on immediately jumping into her role and carrying out the vision set forth to be more inclusive and making it all about the contestants! I applaud her for featuring her top ten sisters each month in her Memoirs of Miss Gay America and sharing a piece of her limelight with each of us. This says a lot about her character and a great premonition of her reign.
This year marks my 10 year involvement with the Miss Gay America system. I began my journey as the President of Pride St. Louis and was approached by the national organization for a sponsorship opportunity when the pageant was held in St. Louis, MO. Although never having seen a pageant I felt this was a great community outreach opportunity for our organization and I said yes! I remember very vividly that ﬁrst night running the spotlight and having that out of body experience much like Roxie Hart in Chicago imaging myself on that stage. This was well before Trixie LaRue was ever born. I just knew as a theatre kid with his BFA in Theatre Performance this felt like where I belonged.
Two years later my national competition journey began when I was crowned Miss Gay Midwest in 2010. I placed 36 out of 60.
The next few years wanted to gain an understanding of the promoters side and partnered with my dear friend Sable Sinclair on co-promoting Miss Gay Illinois America. This experience was as intense and exciting as competing but I still felt desire to be on that stage.
In 2013 after my fourth attempt at winning my state pageant I decided to grab some close friends and head to Louisiana to win the title of Miss Gay Southern Elegance. This was largely encouraged by Sally Sparkles! Although I didn’t win a crown that weekend - I did win a family of David Green and Team Green and placed 18th at the national pageant as ﬁrst alternate to MGSEA.
In 2015 I got points closer to MGSEA and won gown for the ﬁrst time ever! But was still honored to be apart of Team Green and ﬁrst alternate to Sasha Leigh Chambers. This year at nationals was a hard year for me because although I scored enough points to tie for 11th place my integrity was questioned by actions of my past and sine this was brought to the attention of the owners at the end of the weekend they had no choice but to disqualify me and rank me last.
My heart was broken but my promoter stood behind me 100% and after everything was cleared up and when I was welcomed back to the system I had to really decide how much I wanted this dream and did I believe in myself enough to think that I could be the next symbol of excellence?
I realized then that my dream became not to win a big crown but to share a story and inspire others to not give up on themselves because they are not perfect and in the words of Coti Collins - “Let others determine their self worth”. So I put on my imaginary crown, dusted myself off and was honored to ﬁnally win the title of Miss Gay Southern Elegance as well as break the Top Ten at nationals and win the Leslie Rage Award for Best Talent.
I share my story with all of you and make myself vulnerable for criticism for I believe what sets the Miss Gay America system apart from all the other systems is that we have a legacy of titleholders that have stories to tell and have connected with the contestants, promoters and fans more than any other system.
In my opinion the best Symbol of Excellences were not always the strongest dancers or paid the most for amazing costumes but the ones that have the ability to open themselves up and inspire contestants to achieve their dreams. This is why I love that our national titleholder is with contestants from preliminary nights to ﬁnal night and observes the entire pageant from the judges table and is apart of critiques showing how invested they are with the contestants. I just that know every wink from Coco to Sally to every story from Coti to Blair and smile from Kirby to Jessica to Asia and now Suzy has inspired me to continue this journey.
I have a story that I want to tell and I encourage all my fellow sisters as they prepare for MGA ’18 to know their stories and may the best win! Good luck to all and please consider Miss Gay Southern Elegance as your next preliminary as I have found a great friend in David Green and you would be honored to have him as your next promoter!
Thank you for ﬂying America Airlines -
Miss Gay Southern Elegance America 2016
This month, as we kick off our official preliminary season, I have dedicated this article to all the future MGAs.
Dear Future Miss Gay Americas,
It has been about four months since I was crowned Miss Gay America 2017. Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg, I have been able share the daily ins and outs of what it takes to be MGA and in some strong way, have found it therapeutic to have you all join me on my journey.
I have been very active on social media for many reasons. Remember, it is an extension of our character and the way of our world today. For me, it is an opportunity to share with pageant fans and friends the commitment and responsibility of holding a national title and the feedback I have gotten from fellow queens has been quite positive. I am glad to see that these efforts are being noticed. This momentum is great; however, my main reasoning behind all my posts is that I want you to grow with me. I want you to know what you are getting into when you win, and I hope to inspire and encourage you to not only uphold the traditions and legacy of the system, but to continue to strive for individuality.
We are now going into the official qualifying season for Miss Gay America 2018, but I have been plotting and planning since the morning after I won, even though Michael and Rob encouraged me to take a week. Yesterday, Dextaci sent me a text: “How you feeling?…it’s almost here!…” My response was, “It’s been here for months!” I went into the 2017 season already upholding the standards and expectations of what I believe to be a successful Miss Gay America -- or as Sally Sparkles would say, “wearing my invisible crown” -- even before I qualified. Every decision and move I made was as if I was already MGA. Now that I have won, I am more relieved than anything that I have the chance to legitimately apply my work.
Staying organized and making lists has allowed me to confidently go into what is sure to be a whirlwind for the next few months with confidence. I cannot say that I am emotionally ready, but I definitely am prepared. I am so appreciative of all the promoters for their proactivity and for being so communicative. I am grateful to my MGA sisters for responding to my calls and texts and for sending me messages of encouragement. But most of all, I am honored to work on behalf of you who want to be the next Miss Gay America. Not a day has gone by that I have not spoken to or texted at least five hopefuls. And every time I get off the phone with one of you, I say to myself, “This person could win”. I am so proud to be a part of the process from the other side and I am dedicated to ensuring a solid experience for everyone.
This year the Miss Gay America system has been diligent about establishing a strong presence in the community. We have already had tons of monumental success and I look forward to the months to come as we focus on the search for our next MGA. With all the excitement building up to New Orleans in October, there has been quite a buzz of questions directed to me from promoters and contestants alike as to what the national office is looking for in the next winner.
For example, I received this in an email: “You broke the mold last year by wearing a strapless gown. Trends tend to follow the winner. Should I go strapless this year?” I find this question interesting, as I believe that though there are certain criteria where one could have a winning strategy based on our points system, there is not a definitive answer as to what a winner makes.
My response is easy: Be you. Do what best fits your persona and exudes the most character reflective of, quite simply, yourself. Apply this to your entire package. Use every opportunity to tell your story even if you are “not being judged”, from the moment you walk into the door to the moment you leave the contest, and keep in mind the power of your social media. #BeExcellent. Be MGA.
At my orientation in Key West last December, Asia, Rob, Michael, and I compiled a list of traits that we would like to see in a Miss Gay America. It started as an extensive list of about thirty attributes, but at the end of a beautifully sunset day, this is what we came up with.
The next Miss Gay America should be:
I was texting with Jerry Peek earlier, and at the same time thumbing through archived photos of the early years of MGA. I cannot help but get emotional thinking about what Jerry has done for us. We have a unique opportunity to celebrate our individuality, uniqueness, and beauty. Though we do not know what the future holds, I encourage you to really focus on what makes you magical.
I am so proud of everyone and I cannot wait to experience your gifts.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
“Enjoy every moment, embrace who you are, and be the MGA that you want to be.”
“Give the judges no reason to give you anything less than first.”
“I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul” -William Earnest Henley
In addition to my monthly column, I'd like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity to share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA.
This month I celebrate Christa Collins! Christa is a two time Top 10 finalist at the Miss Gay America national pageant. Christa Collins, is a former Miss Gay Missouri America 2013, Miss Gay Mid-America 2015, and First Alternate Miss Gay Heart of America 2016. Holds a degree in Vocal Music Performance, was a Principal Dancer at the Kansas City Ballet, he was in the First National Touring company of the Will Roger’s Follies and he was in the chorus of Thoroughly Modern Millie on Broadway. He now teaches Dance and Voice in Kansas City and Stages ballets for two different dance estates.
He’s married and helps maintain the family restaurant Californos in Westport.
I am so excited that Suzy Wong as decided to feature the Top 10 Finalist to speak on the MGA Newsletter. I am Christa Collins. As we begin another pageant season, the country is in turmoil. We have become so divided and angry that we have failed to listen to each other. We have forgotten to see each other as individuals. As we move forward we must remember to listen, and be objective. Think of how you would want someone to understand your side of the story. It's not always about being heard sometimes, it's just about listening and being there for your friend our particular family member no matter what side of the aisle he or she is on. During these times,people are looking for something to distract them and they turn to us as female impersonators and/or drag performers to help them forget about what is going on in the outside world. So, we mustn't turn against each other because we have historically been on the front lines of history. StoneWall, the beginnings of the AIDS Epidemic, Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Prop 8, and so many others too numerous to name. We were there raising money, giving of our time, energy and support. WE will surely be there now to help through these times and looking stunning while we do it. This Sisterhood, this Legacy, these Friends that we have made and bonded with over the years. This FAMILY, that is Miss Gay America will continue to thrive, and grow and change and Support all people and communities no matter their race, religion, color and/or sexual orientation. The words to the Sister Sledge song “WE ARE FAMILY”, are littered with instructions on how to be a family but, there are very simple rules. Love each other, respect each, listen, and don't judge, and be kind. Remember Kindness goes a long way,, and it never hurts to smile. Thank you for listening, I can't wait to run into you this year on the pageant circuit and meet you down in New Orleans for MGA 2018.
Christopher Barksdale-Burns/Christa Collins
I have contemplated really hard as what to write this month. After consulting some MGA sisters and friends, I have been encouraged to express what’s on my mind and to share a closer insight into the world of Suzy Wong. So for this month, I’m going to go on a bit of a tangent from my normal writing style, and just share “me”, and in some way find a little therapy through the process.
On his radio show, Ryan Seacrest’s quote of the day stated, “Judging a person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who you are.” When I heard him say this, I thought of its poignancy.
A stigma has preceded me…not really by reputation, but just pre-conceived notions as to who I am. I’m not sure why it’d be such a topic, or the cause of such opinion but I have been made aware that “people talk”. This has always been present and it saddens me for I am one who doesn’t expect anything from anyone other than authenticity. I normally wait for people to share with me before I inquire about their story. I love learning what makes their minds tick and feed off of their passions. I also find beauty in whatever situation or environment I am in. That being said, I am seldom asked for my story.
I know that I work in a seemingly fancy world and have been blessed with a supportive family and opportunities for a promising professional career, but as far as Arnold goes, I most appreciate the simple moments and am equally motivated by two main components: the opportunities for success and the fear of failure. When I work within the circuit, I often hear, “you aren't at all what I thought.” I always respond with a giggle and soft, “Thank you?” With that in mind, I never have gone into a situation expecting anyone to live up to an expectation or to ‘be’ anything other than who they truly are. I’m just open to what whatever comes my way. I enjoy developing relationships, finding inspiration from new environments, meeting new people, and experiencing their stories.
Although strong and confident as I am when it comes to my business and brand, I wear my heart on my sleeve, and am quite an emotional person. I cry at the drop of a hat (usually happy tears). I love stories of triumph through adversity. I love witnessing the beauty of relationships. I love the promise of children. I am a positive person. I do not rant or channel negativity in my life. I never see failure, only opportunity for growth. So to learn of even one comment about my character-- to be questioned about my intentions, to be made to feel undeserving of success due to past achievements-- confuses me and honestly, it hurts.
In a past interview, I was asked:
“For many, participating in the MGA system is a life changing event, a welcome source of confidence, structure, and family. Several queens have even claimed they were “raised” by the MGA and that the MGA saved their lives by giving them the support they needed to get off alcohol or drugs. [Compared to many of these queens, you grew up in a good home and live a privileged life.] For you, has the MGA been more of a goal or a challenge, vs. a life-altering or life-saving experience? What does being in the Miss Gay America system mean to you personally? What impact has participating in the MGA had on your life?”
When given this question, I thought to myself, ‘Why am I needing to justify my intentions for wanting to be MGA? And just because everyone’s backgrounds vary, does that mean one person’s participation is more legitimate?’ My motivation is just the same as all my sisters that I have bonded with though this system as we are all impassioned by the quest for excellence. I replied,
“Regardless of personal background, to me the MGA system is just as much life changing, a source of confidence, structure and family. I am a work horse and have been supported to seek success in all that I do. Through my experiences and opportunities, I have been challenged to push hard in my daily life and have an opportunity to share and celebrate my successes. MGA has provided an emotional growth for me. I am in wonder of the dedication and love that is rooted within the system. Participation in the MGA system is a choice I made based on nothing but passion. As far as MGA being a ‘goal’: honestly, MGA has to be a goal in order to win. But the goal of the physical crown isn’t the reason why I competed. I found something that I believe in, that resonates within me, and I feel that I can share my gifts to elevate it.”
As stated before, I absorb whatever people wish to share with me. In last month’s MGA monthly, Monica Moore was featured and I loved how she gave us a little insight of who she is and where she came from. I really liked that; I feel like it allowed me to get to know her a little bit more. So because of her sharing, I’d like do the same.
I am Arnold Myint, aka Suzy Wong. I was born and raised in Nashville, TN and will be 40 years old in April. I am an Aries -- a fire sign-- and live up to every characteristic of the zodiac. Both my parents come from a family of nine siblings and were raised in third world poverty. They worked really hard and found education to be their ticket to live the American dream.
My father was a boxer came to the states on a scholarship (because that’s the only way he could get here), and studied in upstate New York where he worked for IBM. Later, he was a university professor and found his way to Nashville, where he opted to teach at a historically black institution, Tennessee State University, where he taught notables like Oprah Winfrey. He was smart with his money. I have the first watch he ever purchased, and it still works! I live in the first house he bought, though it has a bit more sparkle now. I recall late night conversations with him, and him telling me that his only promise was to never have his children ‘be without’ as he was when growing up.
My mother is a culinary legend in Nashville. Her family lived on the outside walls of the king’s palace in Thailand. They lived in a humble studio and made their income selling stews and curries made of old produce that they would bargain shop at the markets. She came to the states and worked in LA in a cigar box factory and eventually found her way to Nashville as an au pair for a doctor’s family, which afforded her to attend college. To date, my mother runs her restaurant and market and oversees the operations of two of my establishments. She doesn’t spend money on herself-- but thoroughly enjoys it when her brothers spoil her with gifts. She is the catalyst for my commitment to charity work and supporting orphanages for children with HIV in Asia.
From childhood to my mid-twenties, I was a competitive figure skater and discovered the sport at a birthday party. My parents didn't really understand what I was doing; they never came to my practices and when they did, I would fall apart. My godmother would take me to competitions, or I would travel alone and stay with my coach. Every season, I remember my godmother coming to see my parents to persuade them to pay for my training…it was so embarrassing. It was tough to train every day from 5am -10am, and then 2pm -5pm, 5 days a week-- especially when I never saw my family in the stands. Looking back, I feel in some way this pushed me to be who I am today. When I find something that turns me on, I’m all in. I medaled at the national level four times, and toured the world performing with a multitude of companies like the Ice theater of New York, Disney On Ice, and skated for three years with Royal Caribbean Cruise Lines. The fondest memories from this are the friendships I made with fellow performers, the sense of family and acceptance I felt, and, that finally, my parents came to see me skate.
Between my competitive and show skating days, I studied design at TSU and lived in Thailand for a couple of years where I worked for a record label in artist development. (Btw, I speak fluent Thai.)
I later found myself in NYC where I thought I was going to be a Broadway star. I took dance classes and voice lessons. I auditioned daily. Nothing really stuck so I started working at a restaurant and eventually found my way in the kitchen. I peeled shrimp in a basement for quite some time and eventually ended up going to culinary school. While in school, I entered a cooking contest and won a scholarship that pretty much covered my tuition. I worked for a four star chef, Jeans George Vongeritchten, and upon leaving The Big Apple, started my own culinary pursuits. I was as a freelance beverage consultant for the Cheesecake Factory Inc. over the span of about 6 years, and competed on two reality competition shows: Top Chef and Food Network Star. Currently, I am the owner/partner of three eateries in Nashville, and have worked as a culinary liaison for the tourism authority of Thailand.
And…I do drag. But you all know that part.
There is a term, “Haters gonna hate”. Whenever I am feeling the effects of gossip, my friends like to coach me out of my funk with this saying. But, in my mind, why hate to begin with? My father says, “Don’t say hate…it’s such a strong word.” He’s right. So just as there is that saying, I believe that on the flip side there is “Lovers gonna love”. I much prefer this sentiment, as I see beauty in daily experiences -- and I like to believe in unicorns and rainbows.
After my press trip to NYC this month, I received a text from the wife of one of my bartenders. “Elliston [their 10 year old son] and I were watching you on WWHL and he said, ‘What I like about Arnold and Suzy is that he/she represents ALL the people in the world’.” This warmed my heart. I love the notion that we all have a voice and the power to make an impact, be it for just one person. I work hard to honor my parents and to support my community. I am loyal and celebrate accomplishments. I believe in respect, compassion, and love. I seek success so I can give back and hopefully inspire.
Well… that may have been more than I wanted to share, but I’m glad I did. I thank you for being an integral part of my life and hope you have a better sense of who I am.
As we go into pageant season next month, it is my wish that we see the positives in our sisters and that everyone’s efforts and accomplishments are celebrated. We all come from different places --geographically, emotionally, and financially-- but we are bonded. And because of that bond, we are all stronger.
Remember, “Lovers gonna love”.
#EatDrinkInspire #BeExcellent #Slay
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
To thine own self be true
- William Shakespeare
Be the change you want to see in the world.
In addition to my monthly column, I'd like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity to share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA.
This month I celebrate Miss Gay Arizona America 2016, Savannah Stevens! Savannah has been a female impersonator for 16 years in the Valley of the Sun. After 5 strenuous years competing for the title of Miss Gay Arizona America, Savannah was crowned in June 2016. Later that year Savannah would place Top 10 and eventually become 3rd Alternate to Miss Gay America 2017. One of the many highlights of my Miss Gay America was holding Savannah up when she was called as a Top 10 finalist! Not only is Savannah the reigning Miss Gay Arizona America, she is also the woman behind several of my beautiful wig creations!
My name is Christopher Zizzo, I was born in Madison, Wisconsin but have called Arizona home since the age of 6.
I currently hold a supervisory position with the Starbucks Coffee Corporation and have been with the company more than 4 years! I am proud to be employed by a company that celebrates, respects and embraces diversity!
My passion for the performing Arts began at a young age and I became involved in dance and theater freshman year of high school and continued past high school into community theater, and eventually developed my female impersonation persona and career. Savannah Stevens has been a large part of my life for 16 years. During that time I have been fortunate enough to do what I am so passionate about while giving back to a community that has given so much to me!
I first competed for the title of Miss Gay Arizona America title 5 years ago and continued to strive and fight for the opportunity and honor of hearing my name called Miss Gay Arizona America! I heard my name called 1st Alternate 3 years in a row which is still honorable and exciting, but I have to admit I started to feel a little defeated. Through the unwavering love and support from my partner Wes Eichsteadt, my good friend Daniel Eckstrom , the Savvy Squad and a village of family and friends telling me to never give up and MGA 2011 telling me to " never let anyone determine your self worth ", I went back to Miss Gay Arizona America with a new vision passion and drive in my heart! I finally got to hear my name called Miss Gay Arizona America 2016!
It was time to get started preparing my package to compete for the title of Miss Gay America 2017! It was so good seeing and catching up with friends and making new ones! Imagine how excited I was when I got to introduce myself as Miss Gay Arizona America 2016 Savannah Stevens!
I was eager to compete in my solo talent, production talent and wear my brand new purple gown, made by my friends at www.divinesyncdesigns.com.
Final night (my birthday ) I said a little prayer to myself that I would love to finally make it into the top 10! While standing on stage for the announcement of the top 10 I got to hold hands with my dear friend MGAA sister and someone I deeply admire and respect Barbra Seville! Michael and Rob starting calling finalists into the top 10 spots and my grip on Barbra Seville's hand got tighter. " the last finalist joining the top 10 is...Savannah Stevens " it all became a blur from all of the tears that shed, I was on cloud 9! After we recompeted in gown and talent I remember my partner and dresser Wes and my promoters Daniel Eckstrom and Nick Ray telling me how proud they and how I need to remain calm and focused if I should make the top 5! Easier said than done! LOL
So another wish on my birthday came true, I made it into the Top 5! It is so hard putting into words how I felt but I imagine it's like winning the lottery!
I was so extremely honored to join hands with 4 other incredibly intelligent, talented individuals, and friends, Dextaci, Kelly Ray Sheldon, Sofia Anderson and Suzy Wong!
The time was finally here Michael and Rob called 2nd Alternate Sofia Anderson 1st Alternate Kelly Ray Sheldon which left Dextaci, Suzy Wong and myself standing together holding hands. The energy in the building was electric and is something I still feel to this day. I think I will always remember when Dextaci said " well girls it's one of us!" It was powerful!
"Your new Miss Gay America 2017 is, Suzy Wong! " the entire room erupted into a roar of applause and cheers! I am so proud of my friend and top 5 sister Suzy Wong for setting a goal and working hard to achieve that goal . Suzy you are truly an inspiration to not only me but an entire generation and organization! Thank you for being a friend, mentor a true symbol of excellence!
My journey does not end there I am still living my dream every day by being the best MGAA I can possibly be! I have already been honored to oversee and administrate 2 preliminaries here in Arizona and excited that I have 3 left! My step-down as MGAA will be held June 25th 2017 at the beautiful Tempe Center for the Arts and will have 10 extremely qualified and incredible contestants vying for the title of Miss Gay Arizona America. I am thrilled to announce that the theme of this special evening is "Bond . . . Excellence is forever "
I am looking forward to learning and evolving with what I consider the most prestigious pageantry organization in the country and coming back very soon to capture my next goal and dream of becoming Miss Gay America !
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Miss Gay America 2016
3rd Alternate to Miss Gay America 2017
On the first page of my MGA journal I ask myself, “What is your goal?” This question seems simple but if you think about it, it can go so many ways. Had I asked this prior to winning, I would have responded with a quick and definite, “To be Miss Gay America”. But now that I am, the question gets a bit deeper. So . . . what is my goal? As I search for this answer, in a quest to move forward in a productive fashion, I look back and reflect.
Kirby Kolby asked, “Certain steps have been taken by the new owners to make the pageant more progressive, such as hiring a PR director, more online access, and procuring a new location and venue. What specific ideas do you have as the potential next Miss Gay America, to help move this pageant forward?”
I replied, “As some of you might know, I’m an aspiring television host and personality and I’m very familiar with publicity and the importance of marketing today. And I joined MGA because I was a little boy that liked to wear dresses and I took a year off (last year) to collect my thoughts and really search deep within. After meeting Rob and Michael this year, I decided to come back because I really see their vision. And I believe that with me being progressive, a little edgy, a little current, I can bring things to be relevant within the system.
“One thing that I’d like to see is us doing community service more. I would love for prelims and title holders to do reach out, with their community because that is not necessarily in need of a publicist. We will be out there with the people . . . working with the people and they will get to see how great our organization is. So that’s what I would do; is encourage community service within our company.”
This was my on-stage question and answer from final night and since I was in a complete black-out during this category, I thank Versage for documenting it. That being said, I’m glad to have been prepared enough to answer the question this way, as community involvement has been my motivation ever since I was a child with my family visiting my first orphanage in Thailand. I’m also relieved I answered the question this way, because I whole heartedly believe that everyone not only has a hypothetical opportunity, but the actual ability to leave a legacy, regardless of scale. My final night answer has helped to define my goals as the reigning Miss Gay America. I am impassioned by the ideas of building our brand, expressing our culture, bonding our allies and celebrating ourselves.
Now with the crown, I reached out to some other reigning national title holders with an idea. Being that many of these queens were already my friends, I wanted to do something special, something memorable. So we organized a photo shoot and revue show as a symbol on unity among pageant systems. I find it peculiar how even with the LGBT community facing obstacles of acceptance in mainstream society and government, within our own community we often see segregation, judgement and negativity. It is my hope that our minor effort of coming together encourages people to open their hearts and minds and band together as a stronger collective working towards a common humanitarian goal.
This month I spent a week in Key West for my official orientation. I was a bit nervous as I wasn’t sure what to expect. Was I going to be lectured to the entire time? Were my essay answers going to be “wrong”? Am I walking in to a lion’s den of judgement? Will I still be MGA?
After a treacherous travel day, my week with owners Michael and Rob along with Asia O’Hara was so fulfilling and validating. The organization has many exciting things in the works. Our press and media presence is sparking a renewed interest in MGA and I am honored to be a participating factor during this time of transition. While in Key West, between pool breaks, drag shows, and dining at a restaurants that serve only desserts, we as a team worked on handbooks, discussed scenarios, and fine-tuned a business plan for up and coming projects; all with the best interest of the contestants and promoters in mind. I was a vocal and respected contributor on every topic, and any doubts or insecurities I had about my legitimacy are no longer. On the final day, I hugged Asia and she whispered, “I’m so proud of you, you are going to be fabulous”. And with that kind gesture, I have found a new family.
The holiday season has been full of many highlights. I normally host a huge family Thanksgiving at my house, but since my dining room has been transformed into Suzy’s official MGA sewing room, a table scape and fine china weren’t in the cards this year. So for turkey day, with my sister out of town, it was just my father and mother who came over for a rare moment of candid conversation and wine, and wine, and wine . . . resulting in Mom pretty confident that she could be a future Miss Gay America.
Being a professional ice skater for a majority of my life, I was never really home for a traditional Christmas. As I feel that every day is a blessing, I always try to pay it forward as much as I can. This year, I cooked for a family who lost their son (my friend). Initially, I donated a chef dinner for twenty as a fundraising effort for the funeral costs. This evolved to the winner of the auction gifting it to the victim's family. While in their home, I was surrounded by warmth and love. I felt like part of the family, an extension of their son. Having never met before, for some reason I was meant to be there and felt as if I filled his spot for the day. There were tears as I hugged his 4 foot 11 inch mother (my mom is also that tall) and I definitely bawled my eyes out when I got in my car to leave. But the biggest thing I will take from this is how open this family was to me, not only as a chef but as Miss Gay America. In this circumstance, I was a flamboyant chef/drag queen/friend of their gay son . . . the only gay in the room. They didn’t pass judgment, but rather embraced my presence.
2016 started off full of promise. I got a network deal for my own cooking show and started to see the professional light at the end of the tunnel. My years of development, coaching, meetings, and financial investment were finally paying off. #TeamArnold was in place and things were really moving. Completely elated and proud, I was on cloud nine. Sadly, being “the business”, my deal was canceled and I was left confused, hurt, and depressed falling into my friends’ arms completely shattered. Soul searching, I went into the summer evaluating my purpose, writing my goals, planning my next big thing. I purchased a house in Palm Springs with my talent manager, and ultimately shared the stage with so many friends, as I was crowned MGA.
2016 was a roller coaster. It had its ups and downs, flipped around a couple of times and really shook me up. But at the end of the ride, I had a great time as I never ride alone, and I’m always with a friend holding their hand.
Sometimes things don't go according to plan and sometimes you are blessed beyond words. As much as I want to believe that I control my future, I realize that there are certain factors beyond my capabilities. However, the one thing that I find has always been in my grasp are my emotional attachments to people and the support around me. When looking at the question on page one of my journal after writing this all out, the answer for me becomes a little more clear. The one thing constant in all of my experiences is the people I share it with. Be it friends, family, strangers or bosses, my goal is to grow and learn, to share and be inspired. My goal is to find commonality.
Looking forward to 2017, I embrace the opportunities given to me and am prepared to represent everything that the Miss Gay America Organization stands for. I am honored to be in a position to work for and with all of you. I am hopeful for continued growth and success and most importantly, I look forward to writing many more pages in my journal and for the next roller coaster ride with you by my side. Thank you for being my goal.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.
–Ralph Waldo Emerson
In addition to my monthly column, I’d like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA.
This month I celebrate Monica Moore! Monica trains and shows horses and dogs and had the opportunity to perform with exotic animals in many circuses traveling the United States. Monica is a two time Top 10 contestant and is the reigning Miss Gay Tennessee America Regional!
Hello MGA friends, family, and guest:
For those of you who do not personally know me, my name is Brandon Ford and on stage I am known as Monica Moore. I will be going into my 25th year of being a female impersonator this New Year. I live outside of Tampa, Florida where I am a full time entertainer and in my spare time make and design wigs and costumes for other entertainers. I have been interested in becoming Miss Gay America for as many years as I can remember but started to compete in 2009. I have had many highs and lows in my MGA pageant years but don’t regret any of it. I have grown as an entertainer and in my personal life by being a part of the large MGA family.
I grew up in a small upstate NY town where boys were expected to play football and be active in sports yet I still became a cheerleader and danced, never fitting in like so many of us did not in school…but being part of Miss Gay America I knew that I totally belonged here. Being part of pageants has opened so many doors for me and introduced me to people and lifelong friends that I would have never made if I did not compete for MGA.
I’m not sure my bank account is as big as my lifelong dream and desire to be Miss Gay America, but in one way shape or form I will always be involved. If I am never fortunate to be crowned MGA I know I have been welcomed into a family that could never be replaced by any other pageant system; after all I’m a big old dude in a dress and so are many of my other sisters in this big dream chasing family we know, live, and love known as Miss Gay America!!! I truly hope everyone has had a wonderful holiday season and a happy New Year. I’ll see you all at a pageant near you! XOXO
Miss Gay Tennessee Regional
Wong of Wisdom
In my first month since being crowned, I’ve been traveling coast to coast-- working with our MGA publicist in NYC; debuting my first national walk and performance at Mr. Gay USofA in Dallas; joining Barbara Seville and the mayor of Phoenix at AIDS Walk Arizona, in leading the USO caravan in the Palm Springs Pride Parade; and scouting out the venue for MGA 2018 in New Orleans… to list a few adventures. The support from press and media has been encouraging, from local to national coverage like NPR and American Express. And most visibly, the feedback from the new brand image campaign and merchandise, “#BeExcellent”, is positive and promising.
Finally back in “BNA” (btw, that’s the airport code for Nashville), I’ve started to unpack and reorganize my life, and have been diligently sewing and stoning everything in sight in preparation for a busy year-- that actually starts this week. I will be joining the reigning Universal Show Queen, Miss Gay USofA, Miss Continental, and All American Goddess for a national revue show in Orlando, in addition to an appearance on a radio show and a photo shoot celebrating the support and unity between the national pageant systems. I have two days of “me-time”, where I will be in L.A., then I’m off to Key West for my much anticipated father/daughter weekend with Michael and Rob. Asia O’Hara, Maya Montana, and I will be performing in a revue show while we are there. I will return to the city where I was crowned Miss Gay Western States, Phoenix, for Christmas where I will cook for and honor the family of MGA supporter and friend, Gabriel Medellin, who recently tragically lost his life.
With all of these things happening, I can’t help but be emotional; however, the one thing that continues to be most special and humbling is the growth of friendships from my current and future MGA family. Every day I spend about two hours chatting with my various sisters. I love getting random messages and having friendly banters, and I am honored that my (reluctantly) blunt opinions are sought for gown and talent choices.
As I go through pics from Memphis, I smile as if thumbing through a yearbook. I revel at our fierce costumes, like Asia’s indigenous opening number; I giggle at the power puff girls (Savannah, Dextaci, and me); and I celebrate the presence of Norma Kristie. But there is one image that stands out for me above all others. Stephanie Lane won the evening gown category in her group during preliminary night, and when her name was called, tears of pride flooded the room, followed by a standing ovation.
This for me was one of my greatest moments ever at MGA. I recall my second year competing and joking that my gown wasn’t going to be ready in time. Stephanie messaged me offering to loan me one of her Coco Vega gowns if I was in a pinch. She has always been kind to me. Approaching me from day one with open arms, non-judgmental, funny and comfortable to throw the first joke. I have never felt more proud or more connected than to Stephanie Lane’s emotional acceptance of her award. During a beautiful chat with her the other day, I asked her if she was pleased with her year. Her response: “A picture is worth a thousand words” (and thanks to the photo capturing the moment, it truly is). Then I asked her “Why MGA?” Her response was so poignant. “You aren’t always blessed to be able to do what you dream of, and at MGA you can live that dream.” She then asked me, “And what about you?…Why MGA?” I was a loss for words.
MGA 2017 in Memphis has so many precious memories. I am overjoyed and filled with love from the support of my team, friends, family and most of all, my fellow contestants. Despite being competitors with all of our eyes set on the crown, I wanted nothing less than the best experience for everyone. And though some may not have finished where they’d hoped, I applaud us all for presenting pageantry at its best; one full of diversity, class and most importantly, heart.
Though being Miss Gay America 2017 is an honor in every sense, I see it more as an incredible opportunity; one that allows us a voice, a chance to make a statement, to share a passion. I have made it my priority to make this year be “our year”. I am dedicated to giving everyone a regal experience from beginning to end of their MGA journey. I am so pleased that many former contestants and new queens to the system have contacted me with interest of competing this season. I look forward to a high quality contest all year long as we gear up for the main event in October. It is going to be an excellent year.
Thank you all for your dedication. I am continually inspired.
Miss Gay America 2017
I don't think of myself as a poor deprived ghetto girl who made good. I think of myself as somebody who from an early age knew I was responsible for myself, and I had to make good…
The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams. -Oprah Winfrey
In addition to my monthly column, I’d like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA.
This month I celebrate Kelly Ray Shelton. Kelly takes my breath away. She lights up a stage in a way that you can’t buy or learn. To me, Kelly has the “it’ factor. We enjoy sipping on bubbles together. She makes me smile.
Kelly Ray has graced the MGA stage and top ten many times. She is the reigning Miss Gay Heart of America and placed first alternate at MGA 2017.
What a year!!! On New Years Day in Ft. Lauderdale the decision was made to go back to MGA. After coming so close to winning, Jorge and I started making plans for Memphis. We thought "lets do the First Prelim"in St.Louis which happened to be Miss Heart of America. It was a great decision! David and Corey became more than promoters they became team players. From the first of March to the first of October it was a mission... Miss Gay America!
Somehow, someway we were able to get everything we wanted and needed to compete in Memphis. Even the beat down in June by 3 youths couldn't block our blessings, in fact it fueled us. We dreamed larger than ever! I had everything and more than I could've imagined. The two categories I was most excited about didn't quite go as well as I hoped. Male interview and onstage question. After the pageant I had to marinate in all the should've, would've, could'ves, like I'm sure many of us did. I share my experience as a lesson and hopefully a blessing to myself and any of you that may learn from my experience. This I know for sure, though much money was spent, you just can't put a price on the lessons learned. The memories made, the week with close fiends. The week making new friends, and the connections made with bar owners and promoters. As well as seeing and striving for excellence, beautifully executed by all the formers and especially by Asia.
One hope I have is that no one will never ever miss a roll call! I'm sure we can all learn from our own experiences to make us all better and not bitter. So at this time of year when I reflect on the good, the bad, the happy, and the sad, I need you all to know the week with you all in Memphis was worth every cent spent. It was worth every hour of effort!
So I hope this special note to you all helps motivate and inspire you to continue on your path of fulfilling your dream of becoming Miss Gay America. And to Suzy Wong I hope you have the best year of your life. In just a short time your light is shining bright and you are sharing your excellence with us all. Looking forward in sharing many treasured moments with you this year!!!!
May God continue to Bless us all.. Take care and I hope our paths cross soon!
All My Love,
Kelly Ray Shelton
Miss Gay Heart of America 2016
Being honored with the title of Miss Gay America 2017 earlier this month, there were a few things that I had to jump right in on doing; promo pictures, interviews and this highly anticipated newsletter. So on Monday, October 10th, I started the process. Every day since then, I’ve been writing a lot and erasing even more; thinking about what to say and how to say it, talking about topics like family and my ice skating history, researching quotes and song lyrics, pulling from past inspiration. And though every night as I think to myself, “this is good”, I wake up just not feeling it, until today.
Earlier this week, I posted a video of a school teacher in South America that has down syndrome. Today, at a stop light around the corner from my house I noticed that someone responded to that post, “#nolimits”. I was inspired; I couldn’t wait to get to my computer. So here we have it…the first edition of “Sincerely, Suzy”.
In 2012, based on a suggestion from my friend and former Entertainer of the Year, Dee Ranged, I entered Miss Gay Nashville America at my home bar, Play, in Tennessee. Not really knowing what I was getting myself into and with the minimal research I did on the system, I planned a concise talent, had a great solo talent, presented a pretty solid interview, and because I was so excited about my ruby rhinestoned platform shoes, literally twirled my way out of qualifying to the next level. At judge’s critiques, everything made sense, but I was offered a spot as a representative to compete at Miss Gay Tennessee America. With knowledgeable coaching and a bit more awareness of what this system is, I ended up winning the title and headed to my first MGA experience, needless to say without those ruby platforms, and placed 11th.
It was at Miss Gay Tennessee America in Memphis that I met a tight knit group of formers and through them, befriended many local supporters. Since those formative years, I’ve returned to Memphis numerous times and have always felt somewhat of a homecoming. I am impressed with their sense of community, the support they lend each other and the family bonds they have created. And though surrounded by all of the pageantry, glamour, and quest for excellence, I find myself inspired and humbled by one family; Dana Beech and the amazing Super Chase.
I initially met Dana and her partner Renee through my MGTNA sisters. We’d see each other out at events and share an occasional drink. She is charming and funny, grounded and welcoming, and a supporter of the Miss Gay America system. Thanks to the development of social media, much like with many of you, I have been able to keep up with her daily play by play. A big part of this is her son, Super Chase. Chase has cerebral palsy along with other diagnosis due to complications at birth. He is in fact super, because from what I understand, he is the oldest survivor of one of his conditions and has defied all statistics. That in itself is just remarkable. But what I am in awe of is Chase’s awesome character. He loves to swim and in the past couple of years I’ve noticed him really coming into his own. He is simply full of life. And based on our friend Pat McCooter, “When he sees you, he gives you a super hero name…and that’s who you are from that point on.”
As I stalk Facebook daily, I always smile when I see Dana’s post and “Super Chase - The incredible adventures of a real life...” (that’s actually the page). I smile for Chase’s progress, I smile for Dana’s openness, I smile because they are smiling. I love learning with him (they are covering all the states right now). I love working out with him and sharing the joy and excitement of playing catch, and hearing him scream “Mom!”. I love experiencing the crazy Halloween treats and craft projects he and Dana get into.
In our crazy world of worry and strife, Dana shares Super Chase’s life as it plays out and through that, he lights up mine; just by being an excited, bright eyed kid. So to Dana, Renee, and Chase, I applaud you and thank you for filling my heart with optimism, joy and love.
We say that MGA is a sisterhood. We are bonded through a common passion and though we all have different stories, we share similar goals. But it’s moments in life when I take my friends' advice to “stop and smell the roses”, and look at all that surrounds me, that I am just simply amazed and grateful. Because of this sisterhood, I have found myself. Because of this bond, others have influenced my life. Because of our passion, my family is huge. Because of Super Chase, I am inspired with #nolimits. For me, the prize isn’t the title, but our journey together.
Miss Gay America 2017
Wong of Wisdom
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition."
In addition to my monthly column, I’d like to highlight one of my top ten sisters, giving them an opportunity share some thoughts and practice for when they are MGA. This month I’d like to celebrate Deva Station she and I both like to cry at the drop of a hat. We both love kids…they make us cry too. :
Deva Station is a 3 time top 10 finalist a former Miss Gay Ohio America and a former Miss Gay DC America!
It's so hard to believe that MGA 2017 has been crowned and most of us are already planning, or deciding what to do next!
Once the decisions have been made and planning begins, the year flys by and it's time to take the National stage once again. I've been competing at MGA for 6 years and have never done any other system. I truly believe that each year at MGA is like a college course; each year you learn more about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses. Each year you return to your daily routine/day job/drag job, a little bit stronger and a lot more confident.
This year, the same as any other year; it is extremely overwhelming to hear your name called into the Top 10. Getting there however is where the growth and learning take place. If I were asked to give any newcomer to MGA advice, that advice would be not to lose yourself in the process. So many people want to help you succeed and sometimes it can become quite the task to filter all of the information, yet remain true to your vision & your character. Believe in yourself and surround yourself with a team that also believes in your vision. As my mother always said, "too many cooks spoil the broth".
Enjoy the process, one of the most rewarding things about MGA are the friendships we build along the way. Sometimes the package itself might not bring the rewards you wanted, but those friendships burn bright long after the stage lights go dim. Some of the most influential people in my life along with my strongest relationships have been built at MGA. I've learned that seeing someone I care about achieve their dreams can be just as rewarding as achieving my own.
Do your research, find out what has worked and what has not. Listen to your critiques, whether you agree or not; the role of the judges is to make you the best that you can be. To make YOU the next symbol of excellence. Take those notes and apply them, or at the very least try to understand and learn from them. Realize your strengths and build on them, accept your weaknesses and work on them. Look to the Former's, I've never once went to a Forever MGA for advice or guidance, and been given any information that didn't make me a better competitor. I wish each and every one of you a year of extreme success.
In closing, I'd like to say congrats to our new Miss Gay America, Suzy Wong. Your work ethic and devotion are sure to lead you to an amazing year. Your dignity and poise from the start are inspiring. Michael & Rob, THANK YOU for your vision and dedication to the contestants and the evolution of Miss Gay America. Thank you Asia, for believing in me and pushing me to better believe in myself. Blair Williams, you are the meaning of humility and kindness; your friendship and mentoring have honestly made me a better person. To my team, you are the reason I was able to shine. Thank you.
A wonderful promoter once said to me, "you're already a Miss Gay America, you just haven't won the crown yet". I think the applies to all of us.
Much love and respect,